Living with a Partner for the First Time? Here’s What You Need to Know

By Devina Kaur

Buying or renting a home with your partner is a big step and it can be extremely stressful. You will experience many emotions throughout this new journey that you are about to embark on that can feel overwhelming. You may be excited but also filled with anxiety because you are unsure about what you should expect from the experience? How do you prepare for this big step together? How do you work through this change and the possible hardships? Moving in with someone does not mean that you will always get along. This relationship milestone takes commitment, patience, love, understanding, mutual respect and most importantly finding a common ground.

Taking such a big step like living with someone means that you are opening yourself up to receiving your partner just as they are. The full package; the good, the bad and possibly the ugly. You should learn to embrace who they truly are – up close and personal and literally behind closed doors. It can be a beautiful shared experience when two souls come together to unify their bond through the significance of sharing space. Here are 3 important things you need to know when moving in with your partner for the first time:  

Accept yourself and your partner

How do you decide how to divide up your household chores? Does your partner expect you to do all the cleaning and cooking? Or perhaps they came from a household where they always had a helper around? Should you both pay someone to do the chores or will you take it upon yourself? Discover your likes and your dislikes and take your partner’s likes and dislikes into account too. Accept yourself and your partner so that the transition of moving in together may run more smoothly. Every problem can easily be solved when communication and respect are put at the forefront.

Shared Laughter

Living with someone you love and trust can be a very fun experience. Play a game, release your inner child with your partner and always have fun sharing in the good moments with your partner. Take time out for date nights. Make your house a home by bringing in aspects of true joy, laughter and absolute bliss. Moving in with your partner may seem a little intimidating at first but when you place love, learning, kindness, acceptance, respect and tolerance in your shared experiences you find more joy in everything and everyone around you. Laugh 100 times a day to keep the good energy thriving.


Know who you are and what you want. Especially as women, we tend to overcompensate to please those around us and rarely allow ourselves to be the true version of ourselves. Dismiss titles such as ‘’mom’’, ‘’career woman’’ and ‘’spouse’’ every now and then. Self-knowledge means having a better understanding of yourself outside of external expectations. When we know ourselves, we are empowered! Self-knowledge will help to bind you to the connection that you and your partner may have. You will be able to set boundaries for your ‘’new normal’’ which will allow for less conflicts and to center your experiences on love, respect and kindness.