Happiness or Strength: It’s All Within Us ~ Rameshinder Sandhu

“Sometimes even to live is an act of courage”, once precisely echoed Lucius Annaeus Seneca, a Roman philosopher and dramatist, because there are many who fail to perform this act of courage. Sometimes, even from whom we can’t expect a failure in this act, prove us wrong, and instantly fill us with all the grief in this world.

Was the Popular Bollywood actor Sushant Singh Rajput, who committed suicide the other day, despite being such a successful actor, not one of those? Certainly, he was. Just in his early thirties, he was living his dream, and tasting success as many dream of. Apology, that I am being so blunt.
But maybe he was too attached to the world outside, and tried seeking almost everything from it. It happens, and no doubt many of us sail in the very same boat. Its natural as we humans do get easily carried away by the world outside and in the process forget our very own selves. From this attachment, we constantly seek and pin many expectations–may be from people or other sources, and the moment our expectations don’t get fulfilled as we desired, we begin to overlook the light at the end of the tunnel, shattering away our peace.

Haven’t we heard, happiness is within us, and so is strength and courage for facing any challenges in life? But if we would continue to find them outside, then on what basis, should we expect to be helped? Anna Freud, an Austrian British psychoanalyst, also once realised, “I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence, but it comes from within. It is there all the time.” I will label it as her ‘golden epiphany’ for life

We also forget that not all days are the same. If it’s sunny today, it could be a rainy day tomorrow, which is why, these words that I read somewhere were surely given birth for a reason: “Life is a rainbow, which also includes black”, and it is this black, that either makes us more audacious or simply a victim. The choice is always with us. Irony is, we get so much frightened by this black, that we forget all other fun colours that the rainbow of our life offers us, and little do we bear in mind that if a storm comes, it also goes. And most importantly, “what matters most is how well you walk through the fire”, as observed by Charles Bukowski, an American German poet.
Above all, we come alone and go alone from this earth. Hence, we need to be our own best friend, learn to enjoy our own company and why not consider it as a must, when we know we are part of a technology addicted society where everyone has no real time for anyone, in many cases, the story being no different within families.

Surely, pointing out reasons for rising suicides will always be easy and a society of this kind will give plenty but blaming will take us nowhere but continuous connection with ourselves will truly help. For sure, no help from outside can be more powerful than the connection with self.
And one last thing and it’s equally crucial: In our respective life journeys, we get so busy that we not only forget ourselves but also forget to live life!