Every day we wake up and the power of how it should be is in our hands. In a split-second our mind makes a decision how it is going to be, it can be a good day, a happy day, or a sad, pessimistic day and more and more it is happening to all of us. A single glance, something on social media, a toxic conversation or a message that uplifts, a positive reaffirmation, walking outside, watching the sunrise, listening to good music, all these can make us what we wish to be for the day.

I have had a few days where I was feeling forlorn, sad, depressed and pessimistic and made me think about what was I doing. What was my value, why did I let a few incidents affect me that I was reacting and making myself sad. It went against everything I believed in.

Here you’re going to say, oh I was on a pity boat, I was feeling sad for myself but allow yourself the luxury to feel sad, to wallow in self-pity. It’s ok to be sad and depressed and deep in the blues. Be gentle, be kind to yourself, it all starts with you. The journey is always yours and yours alone, no one else will walk it for you, also during this, you will fall, you will stumble, there will be obstacles and sometimes the darkness and despair is so much that there is no light at the end of the tunnel.

It is there, my dear. I promise you, don’t beat yourself too much, let yourself learn and rise from it in your own due time.

I had a message from a young Pakistani lady on Facebook. She and I don’t know, each other from Adams but she reached out because I looked like her dead aunt and she thought I had Lahori swagger. I just spoke to her and we chatted ( because I love to talk ) and she said I helped her to get out of her depression. She had resorted to eating out o stress and gained too much weight and my words helped her.

Never underestimate the power of a smile, kindness and just being ourselves. Sometimes I am told I am abrupt and rude or super sensitive, well we all are made in different moulds. One has a hard time letting go of disappointments, regrets and losses. You keep thinking of old wounds. What good does it do? Learn the lesson, Let go, Move on. It was a lesson and not a punishment.

I always feel half the times we concoct the pain in our mind and the anger and the repercussions. They say, it never rains without thunderstorms, so there’s no life without problems, just hold and wait…

We all are fighting, walking our journey and life is a series of beautiful events that are all pre-planned and destined for us. It’s all pre-ordained and for me, the biggest strength is the strength of Him. In times of darkness, no one else can answer, only one’s faith and I must say it is that what carries us forward. Never feel bad for investing in one’s soul.

And as my favourite author writes, Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if only one remembers to turn on the light. It is all starts with switching it on. I know, I know I’m a called an escapist by quoting a children’s books author all the time, but do you know of her journey and struggle. She just believed in a story and she knew she had to write and make it for her children.

We do not need magic to transform our world. We carry all of the power we need inside ourselves already. ( JK Rowling ).

Just believe, and if you fall, dust yourself and rise again like the phoenix and don’t forget to smile. It transforms everything.

To be Continued.